There’s a backstory to my episode today. This morning I received a text message from my mom. It said, “Just read this, do you agree?”
Attached was a photo of an article that said, “truly the brain is wired to do only one thing at a time. When you feel like you are doing two things at once, you’re actually doing two individual things in rapid succession. Multi-tasking doesn’t expand the brain’s capacity to accomplish both; it simply increases the amount of mental effort it must put out. The result is that we simply reduce the attention we give to each of the tasks.”
In short, YES I agree…
I talk about my thoughts around this issue and also point out some of the negative things that come from trying to multi-task, such as:
1. Lower productivity on both tasks
2. Stops you from getting into a state of flow
a. U of California Irvine study says that when we are distracted, it takes 23 minutes and 15 seconds to get back on task
3. UCLA Study – impacts short term memory
4. Leads to increased anxiety
5. Inhibits creative thinking
How do we solve this? Refer to Episode 014 – Success PlanningPlan your day List your tasks in priority (Long term list, short term list) List top 3 priorities for the day List the tasks that MUST get done that day Block your time – NO DISTRACTIONS Take breaks Optimize your work environment
Being an entrepreneur or business owner can seem very lonely at times. Nobody gets you! Nobody understands! You’re a dreamer!
Who can you turn to for advice? Who will understand? Who’s been there before and knows what to do? Who can help you get to the next level?
It can feel lonely at times, But you’re not alone!
This is why joining a Mastermind Group can be so powerful!
A group of like-minded individuals who are all pushing each other to get to the next level.
A group where you are comfortable to open up and share. A group that will hold each other accountable.
A group where you can learn from the mistake of others so that you don’t have to make them yourself! A place where you can learn from the collective genius of the group.
That is the power of a Mastermind Group!
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“No matter what had happened the night before – good game, bad game, soreness, fatigue – he was up working out every morning while most of the other guys slept.”
That was Tim S. Grover talking about Michael Jordan, in his book Relentless.
He continued, “Kobe is the same; he’s insatiable in his desire to work. Some days we’ll go back to the gym twice a day and once more at night, trying different things, working on certain issues, always looking for the extra edge.”
In Kobe Bryant, The Mamba Mentality – How I Play, Phil Jackson said this about Kobe:
“My staff would meet at 8:30 AM at our facility before a practice or game to prepare for the coming day. More often than not, by the time I pulled in, Kobe would already be parked in the car next to my designated spot, taking a nap. He would be in the gym well before that, maybe by 6 AM to get his pre-practrice workout done before anyone else showed up. That was the trademark of the final 10 years of his career.”
What are you doing to separate yourself from your competition?
Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, these guys were the best at their game. Was it just their God given talent that made them that way? Absolutely not! It was also their work ethic, their drive and dedication and their love of the game.
One of the biggest secrets to success lies in the answer to this question. What do you do when no one is around? What are you doing to get better, move to the top, or stay at the top?
It doesn’t matter if it’s in sports, business or something else, if you want to be the best, there is so much that you have to do on your own. You can’t do it for recognition or praise. You put in the extra practice for yourself, not for anyone else.
Last weekend Drew Brees set the new NFL record for most career pass touchdowns. Brees has the same mentality and work ethic as Jordan and Kobe. What was he doing the night before the game where he broke the record? The same thing he does every night after practice has ended and the rest of the team has left. He goes through his own workout.
This video from Reggie Bush was taken the night before his last game.
This is what it takes to be great.
What are you doing to be great?
How much time do you dedicate towards practice each week?
Do you practice with intent?
Be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything you can to be the very best at what you do? Are you settled and ok with where you are at? What changes do you need to make? Are you willing to make them? Check out ourGuided Tour and see how we can help you achieve this.
It was thought that running a mile in under 4-minutes was physically impossible for any human being. Until, at Oxford University’s Iffley Road Stadium in 1954, Roger Bannister completed four laps in 3:59.4. The photo of an exhausted Bannister with his eyes closed and mouth opened appeared on the front page of newspapers around the world, a testament of what humankind could achieve.
As important as anything, Bannister broke a psychological barrier with this run. This once believed impossible record only lasted for 46 days before Australian runner John Landy shaved 1.5 seconds off of his time. By the end of 1957, 16 runners had logged sub-4-minute miles. Since that time more than 1,400 runners have broken the 4 minute mile and the current record stands at 3:43.13. An impossible task until Bannister changed that belief.
Similar to the impossible 4-minute mile, breaking the 2-hour marathon (26.2 miles) was another barrier that seemed would never happen. In fact, researchers in Australia crunched marathon world records over the past 60 years and concluded that there was a 10 percent likelihood that the two-hour mark would fall by 2032, and just a 5 percent chance it would happen by 2024.
Last week, on October 12, 2019 Eliud Kipchoge ran the fastest 26.2 miles ever and broke through the seemingly impossible barrier of two hours with a time of 1:59:40. That is an incredible sub-4:34 mile pace for the entire distance.
Just like when Bannister broke the 4-minute mile barrier in 1954, Kipchoge has inspired a new generation to push their limits with what is possible.
“It is a great feeling to make history in sport after Sir Roger Bannister in 1954. I am the happiest man in the world to be the first human to run under two hours, and I can tell people that no human is limited,” Kipchoge said. “I expect more people all over the world to run under two hours after today.”
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” NAPOLEON HILL
To live the life you truly desire, the first step is to break through the psychological barriers that are holding you back. You have to believe that you can get there.
Kipchoge believed he could break the two-hour barrier. Before the event he said, “Many ideologies [have] been going that no human will break the two-hour mark but personally, I have dared to try. I am doing it to make history.” After the race he said, “there was no point that I doubted myself.”
Look around. Your biggest dreams, the life you really want is not the 4-minute mile or the 2-hour marathon. Most likely, there’s already someone that is living that life. You don’t need to wait for someone to break through that psychological barrier before you can achieve it. That barrier has already been broken.
Your first step to achieving your goals is believing you can do it.
Where do you really want to be? What are your big goals? Identify the real and the imagined barriers that are holding you back. It’s time to break through those barriers and reach your true potential! Stop believing your own lies.
Not knowing how to do it. Not seeing the path. Thinking it’s impossible. These are all excuses that you’ve told yourself. Kipchoge figured out how to run a sub-2 hour marathon, you can figure out how to achieve the life you want.
Once you really believe you can achieve your goals you need to give yourself a path to follow so you’ll be able to reach the goals you previously thought were impossible.
In May of 2017, Kipchoge came up just shy of the two-hour mark during Nike’s Breaking2 project, finishing with a time of 2:00:25. After missing the mark by less than half a minute, he created the path he needed to follow to accomplish the goal a little more than two years later. This included his training and preparation all the way through to the pace setters and water delivery during the run.
Planning is key to your success. Figure out how you’re going to reach your ultimate goals and follow that plan. But be flexible so you can adjust quickly and make decisions when road blocks appear.
If at times you get knocked off your path it doesn’t mean it’s over. Adjust and figure out how to get back on the path again. Brian Tracy said, “Your ability to persist longer than anyone else is the quality that will guarantee great success in life. Persistence is self-discipline in action and the true measure of your belief in yourself. Resolve in advance that you will never, never give up!”
The first step in your journey is to see in your mind what it is that you really want and to truly believe you are capable of achieving it. The mind is a powerful force and when you use it to create the life and the outcomes you desire, amazing things will happen.
He’s actually inspired all of us that we can stretch our limits in our lives and we can do more than we think we can do.
PATRICK SANG – ELIUD KIPCHOGE’S COACH
Back in my days as a banker I spent one year working at a branch that was a pretty good daily commute. Those daily commutes were when I discovered my love for self-education. I remember listening to a Tony Robbins CD and he said when he was first getting started he read 700 books. I wasn’t a reader but I remember thinking, “If 700 books can get Tony Robbins to where he is, I’m going to read 700 books.” I’ve been an avid reader ever since.
I often think about how I will maximize my benefits of reading. What are the best habits and practices I need to have to get the most out of what I read?
What Am I Reading and Why Am I Reading It?
When I first began reading it was just a race to 700. I was focused on reading books on leadership, management and a variety of different business topic. But I’d finish one, put it on the shelf and start the next one. My thought was that if I can even retain a little from each book, if I read a lot of books, that’s a lot of new knowledge. Looking back I jumped around from topic to topic. Some of the first books I read were: Secrets of Power Negotiating, Good to Great, Raving Fans, and Man’s search For Meaning. I usually chose the books I read because they were mentioned in another book I was reading or someone suggested it. A lot of the time that is how I still choose books today, but I have more intent and focus on what I’m choosing to read now.
When I added Audible to my tools, that really gave me the ability to get through some books. I spend a lot of time on the road and whenever I’m in my truck I have an audio book playing.
Now, when I choose a book to read, I look for something that is applicable to me at the time. A book that I feel will help me in what I’m dealing with in business or life at that moment. I no longer read just to get on to the next book. I read with an intent to learn and apply what I learn in my life.
Learn Less, Study More…
Darren Hardy is an author I enjoy learning from. I remember him saying that we need to “learn less and study more. Learning is not the problem; lack of real study and implementation is.” I spend a lot of time taking about and reviewing things I’ve read with my brother-in-law, Sheldon. He studies Darren Hardy’s work a lot and he brought this topic up with me shortly after I had read it. He made me realize that this is something that would be beneficial to me. After our conversation I made some changes to my reading habits.
I take more time going through a book now to study the content and learn it better. If I find a book I really like, right after I finish reading it I’ll often turn to page one and start over.
I’ll often finish a book and then get it on Audible so I can listen to it as well. Or, if I first listed to it on Audible I’ll listen to it again and/or also get the hard copy to read.
Rather than flying through books now, I spend more time studying what I’m reading. That way, rather than hoping I’ll retain a little from each book, I feel that I can retain a lot more.
Highlight, Mark, Dog Ear
I take pride in my home library. In fact, when I started to use Audible I would often still buy the hard copy of the book so it would be in my library. As my library grew, those books were by pride and joy. I don’t lend my books out because I don’t want them to disappear like the neighbor’s borrowed tools. I keep them in good condition, organized exactly how I want them. I use to want every book in perfect shape. No markings, no dog eared pages. But I have found so much value in learning and accepting the fact that to get the most out of my books I need to mark them up, write in the margins, bend some corners, etc. When I read I have my ruler, my pen and my highlighter with me. They are just as important as having the book.
I find by marking things in the book I remember them better. But I also find that it helps me to find things a lot easier. I’ll often be on a call or in a coaching session when something pops into my mind from something I’ve read. My library is behind my desk and it’s usually quite easy for me to jump up, grab the book and quickly find what I’m looking for.
When it comes to using Audible it’s easy to clip a note in the app and then I’ll add my own notes to the clip.
One of the best ways to learn something is to teach it.
I find that when I read with the intent of teaching I am able to learn the subject matter a lot better. So as you read, whether you are going to have to teach it or not, read it as if you will have to teach it. Learn it well. Learn it good enough to teach it. You’ll find that you’ll know it better, be able to apply what you’ve learned better and you’ll find yourself referring to it more often in conversations.
We had something we called our Education Plan at Kodiak Mountain Stone. We would ask one of our team members to read a specific book and then we would have a team meeting where they would teach what they had learned from the book and how it would be applicable to us in our business and personal lives. The conversations and things that would come out of those meetings were amazing. But it was always the team member that lead the meeting that got the most out of it.
A while ago I read the book Expert Secrets, by Russell Brunson. It was a great book and I loved what I learned from it. I’m preparing for a Mastermind Event coming up soon and knew there were a few things in the book that I wanted to review for it so I could include them in what I would be teaching. As I was going through the chapters that I wanted to review, I was seeing things in a completely different way. The fact that I was going to be teaching some of the concepts and they were a lot more applicable to my current situation, I was understanding things even better. So rather than just review what I was going to need for the Mastermind, I turned to the front of the book and started to read it all again.
Knowledge is useless if you don’t do anything with it. The sooner you can take the things you learn from your reading and apply them to an area of your life, the better you will understand and remember your new knowledge.
Hopefully these are some practices that can help you to get the most out of your reading. Give them a try. I’d love to hear what you think. Leave your comments below!
We all have to deal with negative people at some point. How do you deal with it?
You need to be conscious of the impact it has on you. I can recall when I’ve been around the negative energy and attitude of someone and the next thing I know I’m unloading negativity onto someone else.
Just stay away from negative people. Eliminate them from your life. Who cares what they think… Right?
It’s really not quite that easy, so then what?
Some people are chronically negative. They are always complaining. Finding the bad in everything. The Eeyore’s of the world.
With others it may be out of character but something has triggered them to be in a mood.
A while ago I wrote,“The Crowd’s Chanting ‘Airball’… You’re Thinking, ‘NEXT!’” I talked about how you have to deal with negativity by moving on. I used a Tweet from Gary Vaynerchuk as an example where he said “I just don’t give a @$%& about what anybody thinks about me, because they don’t know who the *&^% I am inside.”
But here’s the thing. The context of that article was talking about the impact of your own negative self-talk and the negative feedback from social media. Sometimes the “I don’t care” attitude and brushing them off might be the answer, but not all the time.
When you consciously prepare for something before it happens, you are better able to deal with it when you’re actually in the situation because you can stop yourself from reacting based on emotions.
When you have to deal with negative people, keep these four points in mind:
Decide Your Response and Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Sucked In
You always have the choice to decide your response. In Man’s search for Meaning, Viktor E. Frankl said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
It doesn’t matter how negative, nasty or degrading someone is to you. You are always the one choosing how you respond. Don’t let your emotions dictate your reaction and suck you into their negativity.
Don’t Let Their Problem Become Your Problem
Often, when someone is spewing their negativity onto you, it really has nothing to do with you at all. But they want someone on their side. They want someone to agree with them or just listen to them on whatever it is they are ranting about.
It’s not your job to justify their negativity, fix their problem or take it upon yourself. Don’t allow yourself to become everyone’s problem solver and become infected with their negativity.
Hold Your Tongue
This one can be a challenge. There will be times that it’s not just a negative person you are dealing with. Sometimes they will be attacking you, someone you love, your thoughts or your goals.
When this happens you need to stand up for yourself, right? Will it really change anything if you do? You might feel like you have to justify your thoughts or actions, but you don’t.
“In life, it’s important to know when to stop arguing with people and simply let them be wrong.”
Don’t Let Them Change Your Path
If someone tells you that your dreams are unrealistic, should you change them? As you read that I’m sure you thought to yourself, “of course not.” But are you sure? Have you ever been excited about something only to share it with someone and you were deflated after you saw their response? Maybe they even laughed at it or told you that you’re crazy.
I’m blessed with the most supportive wife in the world. From day one, I’ve been able to come to her with any of my crazy dreams and she’s automatically by biggest supporter and cheerleader.
Recently we were discussing some of our business ideas and activities and she made a comment that crushed me. For the first time in my life I felt like I didn’t have her support in something that I was excited about. I began questioning myself. What am I thinking? Why did I think I could or should do this? But I was able to gather myself and remember the thought and preparation I had put into the idea before beginning it, and I knew it was the right thing.
Luckily I also soon realized that I misinterpreted her comment and she’s still my number one supporter!
When you know you’re on the right path, don’t let the negativity of someone else change it.
Our attitudes are a choice that we have. Just as someone’s negative attitude or personality can have an impact on others, your positive attitude and excitement can have an impact on others as well.
Everyone is dealing with some kind of challenge. Be the light in their life!
“A man is what he thinks about all day long.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
The amount of information that we are exposed to on a daily basis is amazing.
It comes through social media, television, radio, books, and the list could go on and on. It’s great how much access we have in this day and age to information, but it is potentially dangerous as well. I want to look at the potential impact information can have on our lives.
I’ve talked previously about the importance of being powerful creators of our own lives. As we walk through this process it will demonstrate why it is so important that we are intentional about it.
You get in life what you create.
Create > Life
This is why you see people from all different backgrounds, countries and races doing amazing things in the world, regardless of where they start out. We’ve seen people rise up out of poverty, from having absolutely nothing and becoming extremely successful and wealthy. At the same time, we’ve seen people who would be considered privileged, create amazing things in their own lives.
On the other hand, we’ve watched people on both ends of the same spectrum create un-powerful lives and end up even worse off than they began.
The things that you expect in your life are the things you create. What you expect to happen, drives your creative capacity.
Expect > Create > Life
But now, taking one more step back, where do your expectations come from?
You expect what you think about.
Think > Expect > Create > Life
Life is a result of what we think about. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “There is a deep tendency in human nature to become precisely like that which you habitually imagine yourself to be.”
This philosophy spurred the writing of books such as Think and Grow Rich, As a Man Thinketh, The Power of Positive Thinking, The Magic of Thinking Big, and others.
But if you go another level deeper, what is it that influences your thoughts?
It’s the things you allow yourself to hear and see. The inputs that you are exposed to
Inputs > Think > Expect > Create > Life
This is why it’s so important to be conscious of the things you allow yourself to be exposed to.
In such a fast-paced, chaotic world, all of the different media outlets are fighting for your attention.
Have you ever wondered why there isn’t a news station that just reports on the good things that happen? The happy, feel-good stories? It’s because they would go broke. It’s the stories of fear, tragedy and disaster that catch our attention.
Your brain’s job is to keep you alive, not make you happy and the media understands this. That’s why they don’t use the happy, feel-good stories to grab your attention. It’s the tragic, shocking stories that get your attention. It’s the same reason traffic comes to a halt as people rubber-neck to see an accident, but at other times those same people don’t think twice about looking at the most beautiful sunset they would have ever experienced as they are making their commute home.
When you look at the path of how the inputs in our lives impact our thoughts, which impact our expectations, our expectations turn into our creations which results in our life you can understand why it’s so important to pay attention to the inputs we allow into our lives.
When you look at the path of how the inputs in our lives impact our thoughts, which impact our expectations, our expectations turn into our creations which results in our life you can understand why it’s so important to pay attention to the inputs we allow into our lives.
You have to protect your mind. You have to be vigilant about what you expose yourself to, because every single input matters.
So what does this mean to you? How do you do it?
You have to consciously choose what you are going to allow yourself to be exposed to. According to a Nielsen Report, US adults watch 5:04 of TV per day on average (35.5 hours/week, slightly more than 77 days per year). It’s time to cut back. Make a choice as to what you are going to give your attention to. Are you going to focus on the good or the bad? The things you can’t do anything about, or the things you can impact?
The first time I trained for a marathon I did all of my training on a treadmill and my routine was to watch the news while I ran. I knew about everything going on. Politics, the markets, the wars and all the other dark, dirty and fearsome content. But then one day I decided I didn’t need to know all of it and continue to fill my mind with all of the garbage and I quit watching the news. The result?
Not watching the news didn’t limit my capacity.
It didn’t end or cause the start of any war.
I wasn’t uninformed because the things I needed to know came to me in different forms.
It drove my parents crazy when they said something to me about something in the news and I had no idea what they were talking about.
It cleared my mind!
A number of years ago I listened to Darren Hardy speak on this topic and the following are his thoughts combined with my own on how to best manage the inputs you let into your life.
Be specific about the things you let in. You don’t have to give it all your attention, just the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that impact you and your family and ignore the rest.
Remember, what you give your attention to becomes your reality. Focus your attention on what is good – ideas, knowledge, talents and skills
Low Information Diet
Limit your intake. Filter your news so you’re only getting the things that are important to you. Do not over-consume!
Mind Your E2E Ratio
Your E2E Ratio is a concept from Brian Tracy, which stands for Entertainment to Education Ratio. Recognize how much of your time is focused on Entertainment vs Education. One study stated that 95% of people spend their extra time on entertainment, while 5% (the successful) spent their extra time focused on education.
Feed Your Mind
As you feed your mind with high-quality content, your thoughts and ideas become more powerful.
I enjoy good music, but I rarely listen to it. I prefer to spend any time I can listening to books or podcasts online.
For example, last week I wrote the article, Dealing With Negative People. This morning at the gym, with TV’s on every wall broadcasting news stations and ESPN, I had my headphones in listening to, “Talking to Crazy,” a book that someone suggested to me after reading my article.
Separate yourself from the average. Use your extra time to fill your mind with positive and inspirational material.
When we are fully aware of the impact the things we allow as inputs have on our lives we can be more conscious and selective to ensure we are letting only the best things in. Be intentional in all you do and live the life you most desire.