We’ve all worked jobs we hated. We were underpaid, underappreciated and bored out of our minds. We either quit these jobs or were fired for poor performance because we just gave up. Instead of taking that approach you need to consider every job an opportunity to learn something new that you can apply down the line to find success.
When you give people the tools they need to come up with unordinary solutions, you are enhancing their lives for the long run. You need to take this approach. What if one of your terrible jobs had been one with no pay at all and you needed to come up with some ingenious ways of making money? I bet you could have found a diamond in that rough. This idea can also be used in your own company.
Now, I don’t recommend going into the next meeting declaring that no one will receive pay anymore, but you can tell them that their potential raises, bonuses and other perks are now dependent on their creativity in ways to enhance business.
Let’s talk about a great concept called financial literacy. This certainly isn’t something they taught you in school but is still essential to know. So, what is financial literacy?
The old school way teaches people to be good employees and not employers. This mindset will never make you wealthy. You need to focus on becoming a good employer. You also need to learn how to not only attain wealth but sustain wealth for generations. This is what financial literacy is all about.
So, how do you get out of the rat race and start working toward a wealthier future? You need to understand the difference between an asset and a liability. Take a look at your own life and you’ll probably find the following:
You’ve probably been fooled into thinking things like your house, car and entertainment system are assets. They aren’t! Assets should be continuing to MAKE you money. When you continue to struggle, you are not building wealth. If you’re primary income is from wages and each time you make more money, you pay taxes-you’re not really creating wealth either, are you?
So, if buying a house isn’t an asset (and, it’s not because you spend about 30 years of your life paying it off), then what is. Here are some of the best assets to attain and when you can start to actually see wealth being created because of it:
Average time of holding on to an asset before selling it for a higher value:
Stocks (Startups and small companies are good investments)
Royalties on intellectual property
Valuables that produce income or appreciate
So, here are the steps to getting out of the rat race and onto your journey of creating wealth:
Understand the difference between an asset and a liability.
Concentrate your efforts on buying income-earning assets.
Focus on keeping liabilities and expenses at a minimum.
There’s a backstory to my episode today. This morning I received a text message from my mom. It said, “Just read this, do you agree?”
Attached was a photo of an article that said, “truly the brain is wired to do only one thing at a time. When you feel like you are doing two things at once, you’re actually doing two individual things in rapid succession. Multi-tasking doesn’t expand the brain’s capacity to accomplish both; it simply increases the amount of mental effort it must put out. The result is that we simply reduce the attention we give to each of the tasks.”
In short, YES I agree…
I talk about my thoughts around this issue and also point out some of the negative things that come from trying to multi-task, such as:
1. Lower productivity on both tasks
2. Stops you from getting into a state of flow
a. U of California Irvine study says that when we are distracted, it takes 23 minutes and 15 seconds to get back on task
3. UCLA Study – impacts short term memory
4. Leads to increased anxiety
5. Inhibits creative thinking
How do we solve this? Refer to Episode 014 – Success PlanningPlan your day List your tasks in priority (Long term list, short term list) List top 3 priorities for the day List the tasks that MUST get done that day Block your time – NO DISTRACTIONS Take breaks Optimize your work environment
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Speaker 1: (00:01)
Hey, welcome back. Thanks for joining again today and if this is your first time joining, I appreciate it. If you’d go check out some of the other videos I’ve done, just go to www.JeffHeggie.com and go to Success Strategies up at the top and you’ll be able to see all the other ones. But hopefully these have been useful for you and you’re getting something out of them. I know I have, it’s been nice doing them because it makes me think about things and I’ve just enjoyed doing it. So hopefully this has been a benefit for you as well. I actually, when I was coming home from my run today, I actually recorded one of these already to post and was going to use, but I’ve had some thoughts since then and I wanted to add a few things. So I’m going to do it again.
Speaker 1: (00:39)
I’m going to talk about a couple things. One, what I talked about this morning, was talking about the things that we focus on because really what we focus on is ends up being the life that we live. And as we like we’re, we’re sitting here on Friday. Again, I talked about it, I don’t know when it was a few episodes ago that I talked about, you know, setting your goals, setting your intentions, um, while you’re working from home and we’re in this pandemic that you can make sure you’re still productive, getting things done. And so I want you to look at your week and see what you did accomplish. And I didn’t get this posted as early as I thought, but even if you’re not seeing it till later on, look at what you still have to accomplish throughout this week to make this a successful week for you to make it so that you’ve accomplished everything you set out to do on Monday and put your focus on that.
Speaker 1: (01:34)
Put your focus and effort and put all your energy and make today if it has to be the most productive day of the week and get things done so that you can wrap the week up and either go into the weekend for more work or be with family or whatever. It’s going to be with everything that you wanted to accomplish by Friday down and out of the way. Um, you know, when we talk, when we talk about focus, there’s a common saying that you hear energy flows where, sorry, where focus goes, energy flows. And so as you really focus on the things that are most important to you, you’re going to be able to put all your energy there and that’s when you’re going to accomplish those things. So that’s number one. That’s what I wanted to talk about. But there’s also, I just got off the call with a client that we talked about something that I want to share as well.
Speaker 1: (02:27)
It’s something that I’ve done myself in the past. I’ve had clients do it in the past. I asked this client to do it and it was actually a good friend of mine, Joseph talked to me about it just a while ago. I’m with Jim quick if you don’t know Jim quick. I knew of him, uh, some of his work, but after Joseph talked to me about it and some of his things that he was teaching, I went and started studying some of gym stuff and I actually ended up being in a course right now. I wanted gyms and the thing that Jim was talking about in the thing that Joseph brought up to me was how a gratitude journal can help people that are dealing with anxiety and depression. And so, you know, with myself or with these clients that I’m working with, that wasn’t the intention of the gratitude journal.
Speaker 1: (03:15)
But I, I agree with it. I think there’s a lot of opportunity there to use a gratitude journal to help you with that. But there’s also a lot more than comes out of it that I think is very worthwhile. And if you’ve never done one before, give it a try. Just give it a week. Go for a week, see how it goes. And I’m going to give you two different ways to do it. One for yourself and one for you and a significant other or a friend or whatever it might be. Number one is just this client that I was just working with. Uh, she meditates every morning. And so what I asked her to do is immediately after her meditation, just spend five minutes and just start writing about things that you’re grateful for. And I told her one day it might be deep and really meaningful and the next day you might be saying, you know, I’m grateful that I got out of bed this morning.
Speaker 1: (04:08)
But just start writing and recognizing all the blessings you have in your life. Because even if you’re having a terrible day, even if things are going awful, the fact that you can spend some time and focus on some things that you’re grateful for will go a long ways. And so spend at least five minutes a day writing in a gratitude journal that your focus on those blessings in your life and you’re going to see a shift in a see a mindset shift and you’ll start recognizing and realizing that even when things are bad, your life is full of blessings and opportunities. Now the other way, and I did this actually, I don’t know, I believe it was Darren Hardy. I learned it from, um, I wrote a gratitude journal every day for I don’t know how many months, but what I would write in it is everything that I was grateful for about my spouse, about my wife, Tamara.
Speaker 1: (05:04)
And just every single day I wrote, you know, just a few lines, a paragraph of something I was grateful for. Sometimes, like I was saying with this gratitude journal, sometimes it was deep. Sometimes I was grateful that she did my laundry. Um, sometimes I was grateful that she folded my clothes, made me dinner, whatever it might be. But every day I wrote about something that I was grateful for. And what I noticed is I started looking for things that she was doing that I was grateful for. So every day I was recognizing those things that whether she was purposely doing something for me, going out of her way to do something or if it was just what she does every day, I was recognizing all that she does for me, my family, whatever it is. And so I want you to do that. Whether it’s a spouse, a friend, family member, whatever, try that as well.
Speaker 1: (05:57)
Start writing in it everyday. Something you’re grateful for, what they’ve done, what they do. And, and then the best part was she didn’t know I was doing it. And then one day I gave it to her and you know, it was pretty meaningful. It went a long way in helping solidify and build our relationship for her to be able to go through there and see the, I actually recognized all the different things that she did. Um, you know, there’s so many times that your spouse does things that they don’t get recognized for. And when you do something like that and they can see that you appreciate it, that you don’t take it for granted. It goes a long ways and I think the opportunity to do that was helpful to me, but it was helpful for her as well to see that I recognize those things.
Speaker 1: (06:49)
So again, looking at end in this week, it’s Friday, uh, hope you have a great weekend, whether you’re working, spending time with family, whatever it is, hope it’s great and productive and you can get things done. But really focus on getting things wound up for your Friday, what you wanted to be accomplishing by this time. When you sat down on Monday and you were looking at what you wanted to get done, let’s get it done. Get caught up. If you’re ahead, get some extra done, whatever it is, and then, you know, take some time to start five minutes a day is all it’s going to take. You can figure out how to carve out five minutes, especially right now, when everyone’s home, five minutes a day, write in a gratitude journal, write everything you can think of that you’re grateful for. Every day it’s going to be different.
Speaker 1: (07:35)
There’s going to be days that it’s the same things over and over. You’re grateful for the exact same things, but it’s gonna change your focus. It’s going to change what you’re focusing on and it’s gonna help you to recognize those blessings. And then the same thing, doing one for your spouse or for someone else will wreck. You’ll start to recognize and focus on the blessing they bring to your life as well. So thank you. Have a great day. Have a great weekend, and I probably won’t see you til Monday, but we will do another one of these then and keep in touch. Go to www.JeffHeggie.com and sign up for the Momentum Training, it’s free. Yesterday I talked about signing up, going through that and then giving me some feedback. I would love to hear feedback on it. Please. When you go through it, it’s only three videos that’ll come out every couple days and the, I think the longest one is 30 minutes and the rest are about 1213 minutes.
Speaker 1: (08:30)
It doesn’t take a lot of time, but I think there’s really some impactful information in there that will be helpful for you as you’re dealing with things as we’re going through this pandemic. But even if, whether we’re in this pandemic or not, there’s some great things that talks about the Momentum Cycle and how to build confidence and how to change cycles when you’re on a downward cycle. And then it goes into creating your path and finding out what your goals are, where you want to be in a year, and how you’re going to get there. And then on the last day it talks about figuring out for each of your goals what your why is, why you truly want to do it. And it’s a, it’s a really cool exercise to go through that. It’s not just here’s my why, this is why I want it. It makes you do some thinking and it makes you dig down and you’ll realize some things that you didn’t know before. So thanks and again, go to www.JeffHeggie.com to get that and we will talk to you again on Monday. Take care.
Being an entrepreneur or business owner can seem very lonely at times. Nobody gets you! Nobody understands! You’re a dreamer!
Who can you turn to for advice? Who will understand? Who’s been there before and knows what to do? Who can help you get to the next level?
It can feel lonely at times, But you’re not alone!
This is why joining a Mastermind Group can be so powerful!
A group of like-minded individuals who are all pushing each other to get to the next level.
A group where you are comfortable to open up and share. A group that will hold each other accountable.
A group where you can learn from the mistake of others so that you don’t have to make them yourself! A place where you can learn from the collective genius of the group.
That is the power of a Mastermind Group!
I’m excited to announce that if you are ready to take your life and your business to the next level, we are creating the perfect Mastermind Group for you.
Our Inner Circle Mastermind Group is a weekly video call focused on such things as:
Specific Training Topics
Group Discussions on Specific Books and Topics
Spot Light Sessions Where The Group Works Through The Issues & Opportunities Of An Individual Inner Circle Group Member
People are looking for a leader to follow. They are looking for someone that can encourage them, inspire them, and give them hope.
If you want to be a great leader in any area of your life, you’ll be successful if you can become great in three areas. You must be confident, you must inspire and you must lead by example.
Without confidence, you are not the person that people want to follow. But when you confidently step forward and show them the way, people will follow you.
As a business coach, I don’t have to be an expert in every industry that my clients are in, but I have to be confident that I am an expert in helping to develop the strategies and systems that will work within their industries. If I wasn’t confident in that, why would they listen to me?
Confidence is key to your success!
People want to follow those that inspire them to do bigger and better things.
This is why we read books, listen to podcasts and look for mentors. When we hear the stories of how others achieved success, it gives us hope that we can do the same things. It gives us the confidence to start our own journey.
As a leader, you need to be able to inspire them to start their journey.
Lead By Example
People are looking for a leader that can show them the way. They want to be shown the things that work and the things that they should avoid. They want to see that you’ve done the things that they want to do. When they see that you are leading by example, they will follow.
You need to have the confidence to be the leader, the person who inspires others and lead by example to show others the way. If you are able to develop these three attributes, you’ll be able to lead many to success! If you’re interested in developing or sharing your skills with other great leaders join our Inner Circle Mastermind.
“No matter what had happened the night before – good game, bad game, soreness, fatigue – he was up working out every morning while most of the other guys slept.”
That was Tim S. Grover talking about Michael Jordan, in his book Relentless.
He continued, “Kobe is the same; he’s insatiable in his desire to work. Some days we’ll go back to the gym twice a day and once more at night, trying different things, working on certain issues, always looking for the extra edge.”
In Kobe Bryant, The Mamba Mentality – How I Play, Phil Jackson said this about Kobe:
“My staff would meet at 8:30 AM at our facility before a practice or game to prepare for the coming day. More often than not, by the time I pulled in, Kobe would already be parked in the car next to my designated spot, taking a nap. He would be in the gym well before that, maybe by 6 AM to get his pre-practrice workout done before anyone else showed up. That was the trademark of the final 10 years of his career.”
What are you doing to separate yourself from your competition?
Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, these guys were the best at their game. Was it just their God given talent that made them that way? Absolutely not! It was also their work ethic, their drive and dedication and their love of the game.
One of the biggest secrets to success lies in the answer to this question. What do you do when no one is around? What are you doing to get better, move to the top, or stay at the top?
It doesn’t matter if it’s in sports, business or something else, if you want to be the best, there is so much that you have to do on your own. You can’t do it for recognition or praise. You put in the extra practice for yourself, not for anyone else.
Last weekend Drew Brees set the new NFL record for most career pass touchdowns. Brees has the same mentality and work ethic as Jordan and Kobe. What was he doing the night before the game where he broke the record? The same thing he does every night after practice has ended and the rest of the team has left. He goes through his own workout.
This video from Reggie Bush was taken the night before his last game.
This is what it takes to be great.
What are you doing to be great?
How much time do you dedicate towards practice each week?
Do you practice with intent?
Be honest with yourself. Are you doing everything you can to be the very best at what you do? Are you settled and ok with where you are at? What changes do you need to make? Are you willing to make them? Check out ourGuided Tour and see how we can help you achieve this.
It was thought that running a mile in under 4-minutes was physically impossible for any human being. Until, at Oxford University’s Iffley Road Stadium in 1954, Roger Bannister completed four laps in 3:59.4. The photo of an exhausted Bannister with his eyes closed and mouth opened appeared on the front page of newspapers around the world, a testament of what humankind could achieve.
As important as anything, Bannister broke a psychological barrier with this run. This once believed impossible record only lasted for 46 days before Australian runner John Landy shaved 1.5 seconds off of his time. By the end of 1957, 16 runners had logged sub-4-minute miles. Since that time more than 1,400 runners have broken the 4 minute mile and the current record stands at 3:43.13. An impossible task until Bannister changed that belief.
Similar to the impossible 4-minute mile, breaking the 2-hour marathon (26.2 miles) was another barrier that seemed would never happen. In fact, researchers in Australia crunched marathon world records over the past 60 years and concluded that there was a 10 percent likelihood that the two-hour mark would fall by 2032, and just a 5 percent chance it would happen by 2024.
Last week, on October 12, 2019 Eliud Kipchoge ran the fastest 26.2 miles ever and broke through the seemingly impossible barrier of two hours with a time of 1:59:40. That is an incredible sub-4:34 mile pace for the entire distance.
Just like when Bannister broke the 4-minute mile barrier in 1954, Kipchoge has inspired a new generation to push their limits with what is possible.
“It is a great feeling to make history in sport after Sir Roger Bannister in 1954. I am the happiest man in the world to be the first human to run under two hours, and I can tell people that no human is limited,” Kipchoge said. “I expect more people all over the world to run under two hours after today.”
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” NAPOLEON HILL
To live the life you truly desire, the first step is to break through the psychological barriers that are holding you back. You have to believe that you can get there.
Kipchoge believed he could break the two-hour barrier. Before the event he said, “Many ideologies [have] been going that no human will break the two-hour mark but personally, I have dared to try. I am doing it to make history.” After the race he said, “there was no point that I doubted myself.”
Look around. Your biggest dreams, the life you really want is not the 4-minute mile or the 2-hour marathon. Most likely, there’s already someone that is living that life. You don’t need to wait for someone to break through that psychological barrier before you can achieve it. That barrier has already been broken.
Your first step to achieving your goals is believing you can do it.
Where do you really want to be? What are your big goals? Identify the real and the imagined barriers that are holding you back. It’s time to break through those barriers and reach your true potential! Stop believing your own lies.
Not knowing how to do it. Not seeing the path. Thinking it’s impossible. These are all excuses that you’ve told yourself. Kipchoge figured out how to run a sub-2 hour marathon, you can figure out how to achieve the life you want.
Once you really believe you can achieve your goals you need to give yourself a path to follow so you’ll be able to reach the goals you previously thought were impossible.
In May of 2017, Kipchoge came up just shy of the two-hour mark during Nike’s Breaking2 project, finishing with a time of 2:00:25. After missing the mark by less than half a minute, he created the path he needed to follow to accomplish the goal a little more than two years later. This included his training and preparation all the way through to the pace setters and water delivery during the run.
Planning is key to your success. Figure out how you’re going to reach your ultimate goals and follow that plan. But be flexible so you can adjust quickly and make decisions when road blocks appear.
If at times you get knocked off your path it doesn’t mean it’s over. Adjust and figure out how to get back on the path again. Brian Tracy said, “Your ability to persist longer than anyone else is the quality that will guarantee great success in life. Persistence is self-discipline in action and the true measure of your belief in yourself. Resolve in advance that you will never, never give up!”
The first step in your journey is to see in your mind what it is that you really want and to truly believe you are capable of achieving it. The mind is a powerful force and when you use it to create the life and the outcomes you desire, amazing things will happen.
He’s actually inspired all of us that we can stretch our limits in our lives and we can do more than we think we can do.
PATRICK SANG – ELIUD KIPCHOGE’S COACH
Back in my days as a banker I spent one year working at a branch that was a pretty good daily commute. Those daily commutes were when I discovered my love for self-education. I remember listening to a Tony Robbins CD and he said when he was first getting started he read 700 books. I wasn’t a reader but I remember thinking, “If 700 books can get Tony Robbins to where he is, I’m going to read 700 books.” I’ve been an avid reader ever since.
I often think about how I will maximize my benefits of reading. What are the best habits and practices I need to have to get the most out of what I read?
What Am I Reading and Why Am I Reading It?
When I first began reading it was just a race to 700. I was focused on reading books on leadership, management and a variety of different business topic. But I’d finish one, put it on the shelf and start the next one. My thought was that if I can even retain a little from each book, if I read a lot of books, that’s a lot of new knowledge. Looking back I jumped around from topic to topic. Some of the first books I read were: Secrets of Power Negotiating, Good to Great, Raving Fans, and Man’s search For Meaning. I usually chose the books I read because they were mentioned in another book I was reading or someone suggested it. A lot of the time that is how I still choose books today, but I have more intent and focus on what I’m choosing to read now.
When I added Audible to my tools, that really gave me the ability to get through some books. I spend a lot of time on the road and whenever I’m in my truck I have an audio book playing.
Now, when I choose a book to read, I look for something that is applicable to me at the time. A book that I feel will help me in what I’m dealing with in business or life at that moment. I no longer read just to get on to the next book. I read with an intent to learn and apply what I learn in my life.
Learn Less, Study More…
Darren Hardy is an author I enjoy learning from. I remember him saying that we need to “learn less and study more. Learning is not the problem; lack of real study and implementation is.” I spend a lot of time taking about and reviewing things I’ve read with my brother-in-law, Sheldon. He studies Darren Hardy’s work a lot and he brought this topic up with me shortly after I had read it. He made me realize that this is something that would be beneficial to me. After our conversation I made some changes to my reading habits.
I take more time going through a book now to study the content and learn it better. If I find a book I really like, right after I finish reading it I’ll often turn to page one and start over.
I’ll often finish a book and then get it on Audible so I can listen to it as well. Or, if I first listed to it on Audible I’ll listen to it again and/or also get the hard copy to read.
Rather than flying through books now, I spend more time studying what I’m reading. That way, rather than hoping I’ll retain a little from each book, I feel that I can retain a lot more.
Highlight, Mark, Dog Ear
I take pride in my home library. In fact, when I started to use Audible I would often still buy the hard copy of the book so it would be in my library. As my library grew, those books were by pride and joy. I don’t lend my books out because I don’t want them to disappear like the neighbor’s borrowed tools. I keep them in good condition, organized exactly how I want them. I use to want every book in perfect shape. No markings, no dog eared pages. But I have found so much value in learning and accepting the fact that to get the most out of my books I need to mark them up, write in the margins, bend some corners, etc. When I read I have my ruler, my pen and my highlighter with me. They are just as important as having the book.
I find by marking things in the book I remember them better. But I also find that it helps me to find things a lot easier. I’ll often be on a call or in a coaching session when something pops into my mind from something I’ve read. My library is behind my desk and it’s usually quite easy for me to jump up, grab the book and quickly find what I’m looking for.
When it comes to using Audible it’s easy to clip a note in the app and then I’ll add my own notes to the clip.
One of the best ways to learn something is to teach it.
I find that when I read with the intent of teaching I am able to learn the subject matter a lot better. So as you read, whether you are going to have to teach it or not, read it as if you will have to teach it. Learn it well. Learn it good enough to teach it. You’ll find that you’ll know it better, be able to apply what you’ve learned better and you’ll find yourself referring to it more often in conversations.
We had something we called our Education Plan at Kodiak Mountain Stone. We would ask one of our team members to read a specific book and then we would have a team meeting where they would teach what they had learned from the book and how it would be applicable to us in our business and personal lives. The conversations and things that would come out of those meetings were amazing. But it was always the team member that lead the meeting that got the most out of it.
A while ago I read the book Expert Secrets, by Russell Brunson. It was a great book and I loved what I learned from it. I’m preparing for a Mastermind Event coming up soon and knew there were a few things in the book that I wanted to review for it so I could include them in what I would be teaching. As I was going through the chapters that I wanted to review, I was seeing things in a completely different way. The fact that I was going to be teaching some of the concepts and they were a lot more applicable to my current situation, I was understanding things even better. So rather than just review what I was going to need for the Mastermind, I turned to the front of the book and started to read it all again.
Knowledge is useless if you don’t do anything with it. The sooner you can take the things you learn from your reading and apply them to an area of your life, the better you will understand and remember your new knowledge.
Hopefully these are some practices that can help you to get the most out of your reading. Give them a try. I’d love to hear what you think. Leave your comments below!
When I sit down to write an article, or as I’m planning an upcoming mastermind call, the topics usually come to me because of conversations I’ve had throughout that week.
On our mastermind call yesterday, one of the things we discussed was how to keep focused and work efficiently towards your goals. I received a comment from someone that said they work much more efficiently and are better at getting things done as deadlines approach. This comment reminded me of a post I had written back in April of 2013. Today, I want to share that information again.
The following is portions of my post from April 18, 2013:
Last night, my daughter, Tia, finished practicing the piano and was sitting at the table looking very stressed. My wife, Tamara, asked her what was stressing her out. From there the floodgates opened up and out came all of the things she had to get done in the next few days with some tight deadlines: French test, write a paper about her experience in Africa, create a video to use at the piano recital, prepare her presentation for the Rotary Club, basketball practice, and…
That was when Tamara stepped in. She told Tia to make a list of all the things she needed to get done and the deadline for each one. She also needed to figure out which ones she could have help on and who could help her.
This made me think about Zig Ziglar and his “Day Before Vacation” teachings, which he asks:
As a general rule, on the day before you go on vacation, do you get two or three times as much work done as you normally get done in a day?
If you can learn why you are that much more productive on the day before vacation, and then repeat that process on a daily basis without working any longer or harder, does it make sense that you will be more valuable to yourself, your family, your company, and society in general?
On the night before the day before vacation, do you take a sheet of paper and say to yourself, “Now tomorrow I’ve got to do…,” and then make a list of things you must do?… In it’s simplest form, that’s goal setting and it’s critical. Next, did you organize your must-do list in the order of importance and accept responsibility for completing those tasks?
The day before we leave on a vacation, Tamara and I both have our to-do lists. On that day, both work-related and non-work related things get completed efficiently. This all happens because we have deadlines and we need to focus to get those things done.
This is what Tia will experience over the next few days. Her French test, the Rotary presentation, piano recital and all the other things coming up are going to happen if she’s ready or not. So she needs to focus and prioritize to ensure she does well at all of them.
Going back to Zig and his day before vacation example, he says “On the way to work the next day your self-talk was upbeat and centred on what you were going to get done. You arrived at work on time so you were punctual. You immediately started to work, making you a self-starter. You were highly motivated and optimistic that you were going to finish every task you had set for yourself. You were enthusiastic about your work and decisively moved from one task to the next, making good choices as you did so, even if the next job on the list was disagreeable.”
I love this example related to unpleasant tasks. “An ol’ boy down home said it best, “Friend, if you’ve got to swallow a frog, you just don’t want to look at the sucker too long. He ain’t gonna get no purtier! As a matter of fact, the longer you look, the uglier he gets.” That’s the way unpleasant tasks are.”
“As you move from task to task, if someone tried to interrupt and talk about last night’s television program or last night’s game, you disciplined yourself to stay on task and not be distracted from your job… Since there was no “tomorrow” for you on each job, you persisted until you completed each one… and momentum built with the completion of each task… Perhaps the most exciting part of this vacation scenario is the fact that your co-workers instinctively picked up the pace [as well].”
If this approach works so well on the day before vacation, or the days before a test or a presentation, won’t it work just as well every day?
A big part of this is in your planning. When you plan and track things, the odds of their happening go up substantially. If we plan our months, weeks and days we will be more productive and balanced.
Tia spent the evening writing about her experiences in Africa. She made her list and prioritized it. When Tamara told her to pause and to make a list to prioritize, it relieved a lot of the stress in the situation.
Plan your time efficiently, and act upon your plans so that you don’t spend your time reacting to what is happening to you.
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We all have to deal with negative people at some point. How do you deal with it?
You need to be conscious of the impact it has on you. I can recall when I’ve been around the negative energy and attitude of someone and the next thing I know I’m unloading negativity onto someone else.
Just stay away from negative people. Eliminate them from your life. Who cares what they think… Right?
It’s really not quite that easy, so then what?
Some people are chronically negative. They are always complaining. Finding the bad in everything. The Eeyore’s of the world.
With others it may be out of character but something has triggered them to be in a mood.
A while ago I wrote,“The Crowd’s Chanting ‘Airball’… You’re Thinking, ‘NEXT!’” I talked about how you have to deal with negativity by moving on. I used a Tweet from Gary Vaynerchuk as an example where he said “I just don’t give a @$%& about what anybody thinks about me, because they don’t know who the *&^% I am inside.”
But here’s the thing. The context of that article was talking about the impact of your own negative self-talk and the negative feedback from social media. Sometimes the “I don’t care” attitude and brushing them off might be the answer, but not all the time.
When you consciously prepare for something before it happens, you are better able to deal with it when you’re actually in the situation because you can stop yourself from reacting based on emotions.
When you have to deal with negative people, keep these four points in mind:
Decide Your Response and Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Sucked In
You always have the choice to decide your response. In Man’s search for Meaning, Viktor E. Frankl said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
It doesn’t matter how negative, nasty or degrading someone is to you. You are always the one choosing how you respond. Don’t let your emotions dictate your reaction and suck you into their negativity.
Don’t Let Their Problem Become Your Problem
Often, when someone is spewing their negativity onto you, it really has nothing to do with you at all. But they want someone on their side. They want someone to agree with them or just listen to them on whatever it is they are ranting about.
It’s not your job to justify their negativity, fix their problem or take it upon yourself. Don’t allow yourself to become everyone’s problem solver and become infected with their negativity.
Hold Your Tongue
This one can be a challenge. There will be times that it’s not just a negative person you are dealing with. Sometimes they will be attacking you, someone you love, your thoughts or your goals.
When this happens you need to stand up for yourself, right? Will it really change anything if you do? You might feel like you have to justify your thoughts or actions, but you don’t.
“In life, it’s important to know when to stop arguing with people and simply let them be wrong.”
Don’t Let Them Change Your Path
If someone tells you that your dreams are unrealistic, should you change them? As you read that I’m sure you thought to yourself, “of course not.” But are you sure? Have you ever been excited about something only to share it with someone and you were deflated after you saw their response? Maybe they even laughed at it or told you that you’re crazy.
I’m blessed with the most supportive wife in the world. From day one, I’ve been able to come to her with any of my crazy dreams and she’s automatically by biggest supporter and cheerleader.
Recently we were discussing some of our business ideas and activities and she made a comment that crushed me. For the first time in my life I felt like I didn’t have her support in something that I was excited about. I began questioning myself. What am I thinking? Why did I think I could or should do this? But I was able to gather myself and remember the thought and preparation I had put into the idea before beginning it, and I knew it was the right thing.
Luckily I also soon realized that I misinterpreted her comment and she’s still my number one supporter!
When you know you’re on the right path, don’t let the negativity of someone else change it.
Our attitudes are a choice that we have. Just as someone’s negative attitude or personality can have an impact on others, your positive attitude and excitement can have an impact on others as well.
Everyone is dealing with some kind of challenge. Be the light in their life!